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5 Juicy BDSM Sex Secrets For Tonight

Taking the first step towards BDSM play can be a daunting one. The most common reason for people to not voice their sexual desires is a concern that their partner won’t understand their intentions. The worst fear of all is the fear of the unknown, so this reaction is absolutely understandable for both parties. If you aren't sure where to start the best place is to start by examining your own desires or take a BDSM test!

While open communication is by far the best method of conveying your interests to your partner, it can also be beneficial to introduce light BDSM to your regular sex life prior to any full-scale BDSM play. A lot of the tips below are often considered just to the right of vanilla, so they are all ideal methods to add a little spice to your bedroom antics.

As with any kinky behaviour, be as open with your significant other as possible. Don’t do anything which could bring them harm and certainly don’t surprise them with a conveniently placed finger.

When done properly, light BDSM play will strengthen a relationship. It will increase the levels of trust between you and your partner and allow you to explore your own personal as-yet-undiscovered sexual territory.

  1. #5 - Use Rear Entrance

    Paying attention to the bum during sex is an easy way to introduce a little bit of naughtiness to your sex life, especially if it’s something that’s usually off-limits for the two of you. I’m not just talking about straight up anal sex, of course. Maybe start by running your tongue around your partner’s body and when you reach their back door, gently lean your tongue as close to their hole as you can. Don’t go too far, you don’t know their limits unless you’ve discussed them beforehand. But if you both enjoy it, you can progress to toys like butt plugs and anal beads. The bum is an ideal passage (sorry) to more kinky activities because it’s culturally taboo by default. It’s not meant for sex, but that’s what we’re using it for. Instant kink.

  2. #4 – Sensational Sensations

    Sensory deprivation during sex is an incredible way to add some simple spice. All it requires is a something which doubles as a blindfold or a restraint. Common items like scarves or ties can be used to remove your partner’s sense of sight, which will increase their remaining senses tenfold. It will force them to feel you through touch, taste and scent alone.

    Light bondage not only intensifies a person’s other sensations, but it can also provide visual stimulation for the dominant partner. Blindfolds are a great way to introduce some spontaneous kink into the bedroom because they’re quick to apply and easily concealable in the bedroom. They require no pain and they can easily be removed should one partner not feel comfortable. They’re the perfect quick-kink toy.

  3. #3 - Spontaneous Spanking

    The great think about spanking is that, while there’s hundreds of different implements on the market designed for the perfect spank, you can do it just fine with your hands. A light, spontaneous slap on your partner’s bottom can awaken a sleeping kink inside both of you which can turn a vanilla sex session into something a little more wild. Don’t make it too hard, you don’t even have to do it so that it hurts. A light slap whilst ‘in the moment’ is perfectly justified, and will indicate to your partner of your sheer mid-sex excitement.

    For anything harder than a quick spontaneous spank, make sure your partner is expecting it! Don’t go in there as hard as you can, especially if you’re just getting started into BDSM antics.

  4. #2 - Mind Games

    A lot of people think that BDSM play is all about the physical. It’s not. Sex is never just about the body. To indulge those real primal urges, one must navigate the most erotic muscle; the brain.

    Mental play can be amazing when done right. It’s all about pushing your partner’s emotional buttons so that they get so worked up it transfers over to the physical. The mental equivalent of a dominant/submissive relationship would involve the dominant being vocal about their desires without actually performing any actions. For example, you may tell your partner that you walked past someone earlier who was so hot you couldn’t take your eyes off them. You could say you really wanted to go over and introduce yourself, but instead, you just came home and used your partner to get yourself off.

    As long as your significant other isn’t the over-jealous type, this could drive them wild. Jealousy can be very erotic when used right, as long as your partner knows that you’re simply fantasising and aren't likely to cheat.

  5. #1 - Vanilla Ice

    Ice is a fantastic element (sorry) to introduce to juice up your vanilla play. Ice, while it may seem completely safe on the surface, is actually something that can cause lasting harm to certain areas of the body.

    Ice play (or temperature play) can be fun for a number of reasons: firstly, the danger element involved in it can be quite a turn on. Secondly, the physical sensation of cold temperatures on warm skin is an incredible feeling. And lastly, small ice cubes (which I recommend starting with) will melt during the course of your session, meaning you can get increasingly more experimental as the danger element fades away.

    If you’re using your hands to control the ice then protect them with gloves or a cloth. Make sure it isn’t dry; run it over water or use saliva before applying it to your partner’s body. Once it’s safe, run it along their stomach, chest, nipples, thighs, genitals; anywhere that might make them groan.

    As the ice turns to water, you can let it run across their body, into their mouths, or even around their genital or anal area. Just make sure the ice doesn’t leave any sharp edges which could cause harm anywhere.